There is an aristocracy of the sensitive. They represent the true human tradition of permanent victory over cruelty and chaos.
E. M. Forster
Since the great recession you may be among the people who have bounced back financially and emotionally. Let’s face it though, even if you have recovered, we all were pretty scared for at least a couple of years. Imagine how this might feel for those who haven’t rebounded. Pretty bad, huh?
Well, it’s one thing to have had a fairly middle class life and to have lost it in the past few years. It’s another thing to have those who were in your social circle go on about their business without nary an acknowledgement of your situation. They may talk about buying and selling houses, their cash out, their retirement, their bonuses and their promotions. Meanwhile you sit across from them at a table in a restaurant barely able to pay your half of the bill, no less pick up the check like you used to.
It astounds you that they can be so insensitive. It is as though the American middle class has been torn in two, those who were lucky enough to find a way to prosper and those who are treading water and about to drown. Why can’t they see this too? Why do they continue to ignore your dire situation?
Really, I think it’s because they can see how easily the wrong move at the wrong time or a sudden misfortune could put them exactly in the seat you are in now, looking across the table at someone they no longer have all those “things” in common with. The American Dream gone haywire…
So…some sensitivity is in order here. If you’re doing well, don’t talk about this too much to others who are spending their last bit of savings on necessities. Ask them how they are doing and listen. Don’t make suggestions about how they can get out of the hole they are in unless there is a realistic way you can provide assistance. They already have tried everything you can think of and more. If you feel that your assistance might obligate you or embarrass them you can always help anonymously.
If you have more, now is the time to pitch in and help your less fortunate friends. A recovery is no fun for anyone if a whole lot of people are left out. Fulfill the social contract: give them a way back in.
Hi Kathleen
So interesting – I think this is where everyone needs to become aware of what is happening around them, rather than living in an isolated bubble. Having compassion for another’s situation is all most of us can ever ask for.
Gayle
I agree, Gail. And I can see that you have a lot of sensitivity and compassion in your posts.
Hi Kathleen,
Thank you for this post! I see too many people not being sensitive to others that are struggling. I work with an international clientele and have clients that don’t blink at any dollar amount to those who are in countries that are lucky enough to even have water.
As for Americans, there are so many who have lost jobs, savings, etc. We have to keep in mind to listen! Active listening will help us understand those who we encounter. There is no sure cure for people that we can tell them what to do. We don’t know all the components of their situation.
I see it all around me, and as a “service provider” I do have that sliding scale for my clients. Some even ask me why I haven’t raised my prices he he he.
This is what prompted me to come into the internet business in the first place. I had a clear vision years back as to the economic status. I knew people had to find a way to compensate their financial flow. So, I came in as a forerunner for my existing clients. That is my passion.
Thank you for speaking out on this subject,
-Donna
Thanks for your insights, Donna. I admire what you are doing: building a successful brand and taking others with you who may need guidance and support!
Hi Kathleen,
Your post was right on target to the economic situation of many in the U.S. We moved our family to Mexico due to our economic situation. My husband and I are both on fixed incomes and the prices in Mexico are 1/3 the prices of most things in the U.S. To some, this may seem a bit drastic. But to us, we are relieved to be living in a beautiful area which is affordable.
Best regards,
Barb
Barb, I am impressed by your ability to make a life-changing plan and follow through with it. I look forward to getting updates about how you are adjusting to life in Mexico!